|Dealing with the Goals of Teen Misbehavior
|| Examples of misbehavior
|| What can you do?
||Ways to encourage positive goals and beliefs
Active: Clowning, minor mischief, unique dress
Passive: Forgetting, not doing chores, expecting to be waited on
|Don't give attention on demand. Ignore when possible. Don't wait on teen. Give positive attention other times.
|| Notice when teen contributes. Show appreciation for positive behavior.
Active: Disobeying, demanding, shouting
Passive: Being stubborn, ignoring you
|Refuse to fight or give in. Withdraw from power contest. If possible, leave room. Let consequence occur for teen.
||Let teen make decisions. Express confidence in teen.
Active: Being rude, saying hurtful things, being violent
Passive: Staring hurtfully at others
|Refuse to feel hurt or angry. Don't hurt teen back. At other times, work to build trust. Help teen feel loved.
|| Be as fair as you can. Treat teen as equal. Respect others so teen has this model.
|| Passive only: Quitting easily, not trying, escaping with drugs or alcohol
|| Do not pity. Stop all criticizing. Notice all efforts, no matter how small. Don't give up on teen.
|| Focus on teen's strengths, talents. Notice when teen makes wise choices. Encourage teen.